A Trustworthy Wife: The 21st Century Virtuous Woman

“Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies”

– Proverbs 31:10

These days,  people avoid marriage because they don’t want to commit to one person. Marriages don’t last. Men and women have affairs, breaking the most basic marriage vow.

Is it any wonder so many people don’t trust each other?

This isn’t God’s way. He wants marriage to last and both parties to be content in the meantime. “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord” (Prov. 18:22).

If we can live up to the standards God reveals in The Model Woman (aka The Proverbs 31 Woman), husbands will be able to trust us with their whole hearts.

His Trust

“The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [honest] gain or need of [dishonest] spoil” (Prov. 31:11, AMP).

Notice that this husband is not worried about anything. He has confidence that his wife is looking after his family and home. Furthermore, he is positive his woman has his best interest in mind. Everything he asks her to accomplish, he knows she’ll come through.

If a man stops to talk to her, Mr. Husband can tell by Mrs. Wife’s  posture that she’s just being friendly. Things are passionate at home, so he knows he doesn’t need to worry about her “looking for love in all the wrong places.”

The last part of this verse indicates that he’s not afraid to leave the checkbook at home, either. Okay, in this day and age it’s more likely a debit or credit card, but the inference is the same. Mr. Husband trusts his wife to follow their budget. She’s careful of his “honest gain” so he doesn’t have to resort to dishonesty to pay their bills.

Her Actions

The virtuous wife is always thinking of ways to promote her husband. In the Amplified Bible, verse twelve expands her actions to include comfort and encouragement.

The next time you nag your husband to fix the sink, take out the trash, mow the yard or put air in the tires, stop for a moment. How could you rephrase your request so he feels bolstered rather than nit-picked?

Men don’t want to admit that they get down, but they’re only human. When they show emotion, society emasculates them and calls them weak or “in touch with their feminine side.” The virtuous wife breaks out some pom-poms and becomes her husband’s biggest cheerleader.

If you admire him with the determination of Lois Lane, don’t be surprised when he becomes your Superman.

The Payoff

Did you know your husband has a reputation based on your actions?

Check out Proverbs 31:23. Scripture is clear to tell us this husband had status because his wife took such exceptional care of his physical and emotional needs that he could focus on pouring himself into his job.

“A virtuous wife is a crown to her husband” – Proverbs 12:4

Your husband might be the baseball cap type, but this is really a metaphor. A crown shows position, power and prestige. A wife who’s doing her part for her husband adorns him with all those things.

All of your good deeds won’t go unnoticed. Even if you’re married to the absent-minded professor, his happiness can be your reward.

“Her husband…praiseth her” – Prov. 31:28b

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